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Hi guys, back to my blog after a long time. Basically already mentioned in a previously article that "There was an advent of a catastrophic event in my life, around 10 months from now and I couldn’t explain my actions and thoughts with the morals and philosophy I was following then."
Yeah and by the time I thought of completing that article something terribly went wrong. So this article is just to tell you about the mistakes I made, we make.
For all those who feel terribly for someone, plz don’t consider this article to demoralize you but just think a while and you will feel that this article has made you powerful than ever before.
After certain age we do feel the absence of women, girl friends in our life. All those like me who have spent most of their time with girls during their school days also feel the same. They prefer to have just one girl friend rather than having lot of friend girls.
To have a lot or some friend gals you need to have some characters in your personality and when you go out for girl friends, you know that those fundas won’t work. So we just experiment and in India, like most unfortunate fellows end up with arrange marriages.
And those who were fortunate to be out of "Gals Company" consider themselves to be unfortunate and deprived of feminine pleasures and so they try out things that they witnessed among guys of the rest half.
If you say that your parents had an arranged marriage then I'll say that the married the one they didn't love for the first time, and for whose parents have ended up with a love marriage there are chances that their partner mayn't be their first love. And believe me this irritates the rest of your life.
So to get your first love you have to play a game.
Well love doesn't demand so and this word "game" is an evil for the essence and spirit of LOVE, but the female mentality demand guys to evolve from the feeling of divine love in the first half of the story. All that love which is divine will make it better after sometime but not after few days of encounter. Plz keep that feeling unexpressed and unexplored until she is just yours. Not even when you feel confident and affirmative about your position in her emotions.
I know this may question me about my success. But I feel it's better if you read the rest. And then you'll question not my success but yours.
So let's begin.
When it comes to girls and women what matters more are mistakes rather than affirmative actions. And it's because we do make some terrible mistakes while paving a sweet lovely way till her heart.
So now the question comes What to Do About it...
.......And How To Make Sure WE Avoid Every One Of These Fatal, Deadly Mistakes.
For all those who have done that read it and believe me it will be the greatest self realization regarding this topic ever felt.
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of a "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What's going on here dude? It's actually very simple... Women don't base their choice for the man on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the man they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
I know this may question me about my success. But I feel it's better if you read the rest. And then you'll question not my success but yours.
So let's begin.
When it comes to girls and women what matters more are mistakes rather than affirmative actions. And it's because we do make some terrible mistakes while paving a sweet lovely way till her heart.
So now the question comes What to Do About it...
.......And How To Make Sure WE Avoid Every One Of These Fatal, Deadly Mistakes.
For all those who have done that read it and believe me it will be the greatest self realization regarding this topic ever felt.
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of a "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What's going on here dude? It's actually very simple... Women don't base their choice for the man on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the man they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. So doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
OK. Then let's go to our school days. Some of us, behaved to be like the most descent guy of the class, with true respect and regards for our fellow female classmates. At least I was like this. You may not have been like me but some of your friends or classmates must have been like this. What’s the result? A hell lot of friend gals with all very curious about our GF, highly welcomed by gals parents and NOW you visit them and they will tell you of their boyfriend in the most innocent and friendly gesture, but not a single so called girl friend. And all those guys who literally never gave them a bit of respect, neither with speech nor with feelings are peacefully having fun with their GFs.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you might want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her to Like You"
What most of us, almost everyone do when we meet a woman whom we REALLY really like... but she's just not interested? Right! We try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, after all these years of making fool of myself I can say... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". After all, all girls are not IITians, but unexpectedly this rule works for them (IIT gals) also. Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it, except Casanova, who didn't. Hats off BOSS. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
OK. Then let's go to our school days. Some of us, behaved to be like the most descent guy of the class, with true respect and regards for our fellow female classmates. At least I was like this. You may not have been like me but some of your friends or classmates must have been like this. What’s the result? A hell lot of friend gals with all very curious about our GF, highly welcomed by gals parents and NOW you visit them and they will tell you of their boyfriend in the most innocent and friendly gesture, but not a single so called girl friend. And all those guys who literally never gave them a bit of respect, neither with speech nor with feelings are peacefully having fun with their GFs.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you might want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her to Like You"
What most of us, almost everyone do when we meet a woman whom we REALLY really like... but she's just not interested? Right! We try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, after all these years of making fool of myself I can say... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". After all, all girls are not IITians, but unexpectedly this rule works for them (IIT gals) also. Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it, except Casanova, who didn't. Hats off BOSS. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Terribly bad idea.
That will never ever work. Avoid that @ all circumstances.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her for Approval or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), we guys do things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are definitely NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her for Approval or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), we guys do things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are definitely NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never ever succeed by looking for approval. At least I and my dearest friends didn't. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Very astonishing naaa? Doubt me? Just ask any girl or woman who is a good friend of yours or a cousin who's very frank with you, but she need to be attractive and Matured'n Xperienced. That's the only criterion for the asked one.
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection with Food and Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had she REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you had this experience at least once.
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection with Food and Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had she REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you had this experience at least once.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens. That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". Yeah buy your attention and affection. Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right; I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
You'll be more surprised to hear that unlike men, for a woman quality of gifts and surprises do hardly matter, what it all matters is quantity.
And remember whenever, yeah whenever you meet her get her a gift, no matter it's a costly one, just get couple of red-yellow roses which hardly costs 1 or 2 rupees. And you get one more point to victory. That’s it. Well this aspect of love was first told to me by Subhojit Mondal, a sweet charming junior of mine in my hall who is in a relationship for last 8 years and he's aged just 19. And I soon realized it.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In the Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most of us do make with girls is sharing how they "feel": but a bit too early. Attractive women are rare (and rarest out here where I'm living). And so they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per year. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. Don't be tensed. It's natural. In their place you would have done that definitely. And so they do have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast, and can't control them. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. Just keep patience. There are much much better ways.
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it or else you'll just keep itching hands like me and many others. When a man sees a beautiful, young woman ( not to say sexy, that’s different) he INSTANTLY feels a sexual-attraction. (Well when it's really just love this aspect is felt after a lot of time and initially takes the whole of yourself out of you to feel for the first time).
You'll be more surprised to hear that unlike men, for a woman quality of gifts and surprises do hardly matter, what it all matters is quantity.
And remember whenever, yeah whenever you meet her get her a gift, no matter it's a costly one, just get couple of red-yellow roses which hardly costs 1 or 2 rupees. And you get one more point to victory. That’s it. Well this aspect of love was first told to me by Subhojit Mondal, a sweet charming junior of mine in my hall who is in a relationship for last 8 years and he's aged just 19. And I soon realized it.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In the Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most of us do make with girls is sharing how they "feel": but a bit too early. Attractive women are rare (and rarest out here where I'm living). And so they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per year. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. Don't be tensed. It's natural. In their place you would have done that definitely. And so they do have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast, and can't control them. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. Just keep patience. There are much much better ways.
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it or else you'll just keep itching hands like me and many others. When a man sees a beautiful, young woman ( not to say sexy, that’s different) he INSTANTLY feels a sexual-attraction. (Well when it's really just love this aspect is felt after a lot of time and initially takes the whole of yourself out of you to feel for the first time).
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual-attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or it's something else going on? Well, after observing, analyzing and studying this topic since my terrible teens, now I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a beautiful, charming, young woman. But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this. And you just have to do it.
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money and Looks
One of the most common mistakes that me and my friends made is giving up before we even got us started... because we thought that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are of certain height(for my case its hips)... or guys who are of certain age to consider relationships seriously. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But the rest comprising the most are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be the ONE. You don't have to "settle down" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful ....... attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a beautiful, charming, young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All of Your Power to Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of ppl use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over. Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What to Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES. I know it might be hard to believe.
But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't ever help! And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating... Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, and kissing her, getting physical... everything. If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING. And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next, with a woman... from the first meeting. All the way to anywhere you want.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that kept us from EVER having the kind of success with women that we truly want. I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. And so we don't like to ask for help. Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women... About three years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to get their minds occupied by my thoughts and my presence felt by the woman (then a girl) that I was attracted to. (To mention you until four years ago I was in such a place where you just can't even think to go out for a date) But I had absolutely no problems in talking and meeting them and over that some of my stupid, dull headed classmates had full fledged girl-friends. It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a girl I wanted to ask out for a ride in my scooter, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women. Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. Since then I've dated so many times I really don't remember. Believe me it has been a very rewarding experience.
I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to get women... and I might wind up alone. I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
AND THIS IS ME
*There's nothing to be ashamed or sacred about this aspect of human. It's just instincts, NO, not animal instincts but Natural Instincts. Some follow the nature, the rest suppress it till the outburst when it's the first time and make it the nastiest and boring activity wasting a lot of energy ever after.
posted by ... at Tuesday, October 26, 2004
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